Hey, y’all!! So I have been happily married for almost 3 wonderful years (anniversary on the 16th)! It has been amazing, and one of the best things about married life is that I have nothing to do with today’s dating game. I was the master of terrible dates for a long time before finding the love of my life! I had forgotten how awful all of that was until I recently heard and saw things from my single friends. Today’s events in particular have given me inspiration to talk about the importance of honesty while navigating the casual dating world.
To keep it respectful, I will not divulge the situation. I will just tell y’all what I think. What I am seeing lately is people’s unwillingness to be open and honest with what they want in a relationship, or rather a situationship. I get that people want to date around and not put labels on things, but they need to communicate that to potential partners! So many people are telling their dates that they only want to talk to them and that they see a future, but they actually want to bippity boppity boo with a variety of people. All this does is create false hope followed by heartbreak. I have been consoling someone tonight because of a guy’s choice to tell her one thing and then do another right before her eyes. I just don’t get it. Why can’t people just tell the truth?
No matter what you want from dating, there will be someone out there who shares your desires and needs, but finding those people requires honest communication. Whether you want to talk to multiple people at once, date to marry, court like the Duggars, or do any other unconventional stuff that has become cool to do, just tell the person/people you are dating! If they are down with that, they will let you know. If they aren’t, then y’all can move on and save yourself a lot of pointless drama. I understand that those conversations are awkward, but they are necessary.
I told you before that I’m in a happy marriage. You know how I got there? Ben straight up told me he wanted to date exclusively, we started going to church together, and then he let me know he wanted to move toward marriage! It was awesome, because we were transparent the whole time! The payoff has been unbelievable. We are obviously very traditional, and I’m not naive enough to think that everyone’s story should look like ours. I’m just pointing out the positive communication!
Okay, that was a long rant! Bottom line: Just be honest, both in dating and in other aspects of life. You keep your integrity and your life becomes so much easier!
Thanks for reading! Have a great night!