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Hump Day!

Hey y’all! It’s hump day! Wednesdays are kind of bittersweet to me. At the end of the day, we are officially over the hump and on the downward slope to the weekend. Getting through the day, however, can be a ride on the struggle bus.

I feel like Mondays, though sometimes dreary, are a powerful reset button. It’s a chance to start the week off right and crush it! Since summer started, I have been working on the goals that I put on the back burner during the end of the busy school year, such as quiet time with God, exercise, housework, and this blog, among other things I will announce later. ๐Ÿ˜‰ This Monday was awesome! I did my devotional and Bible study first thing in the morning, went to kickboxing, grocery shopped for the week, started my weekly cleaning project, cooked a delicious dinner, went to Barre 3 with my friends, and did some professional development reading. Tuesday was a similar day, but with a full day of professional development. Today, however, was more of a struggle. It was hard to wake up early for devotional time before my day of professional development. I was tempted to watch TV instead of pushing through cardio dance and then order in instead of cooking the healthy meal I planned. I had to use one of my mom’s favorite phrases to push through:

Being an adult is doing what you don’t want to do when you don’t want to do it.

I listened to my mom’s voice, which frequently finds its way into my head, and I did it all anyway.

Does my story sound familiar to anyone? Does your Monday motivation turn “meh” about midweek? If so, you are not alone! It’s normal to hit the “hump slump,” but it’s not okay to stay there! Your responsibilities don’t end because you’re tired, and self-improvement can’t happen if you grow stagnant after a couple of days. You need consistency to be successful, which means doing the things you know you need to do even when you don’t feel like it.

At this point, you may be thinking that I’m a total slavedriver and that you deserve a rest. If that’s you right now, you’re correct! You DO deserve a rest! As for the other part…hehe, no comment! ๐Ÿ˜‰ I’m not saying to just push through constantly and never give yourself a reward or a breather! We all need to recharge sometimes. The difference is that you recharge and then get back to work. It’s far too easy to justify laziness to yourself and extend your break to the point of irresponsibility. After I did my professional development sessions today, I met my husband at our favorite coffee shop, had coffee and a delectable croissant, and just chilled for an hour. That was a lovely treat for me, and I felt rejuvenated when it was time to go to the gym!

Here I am with that latte! Yum!! If you haven’t gone to Hank’s in Midtown, check them out! Great coffee with fun and knowledgeable baristas!

Here’s the bottom line: Push through hump day, do what you need to do, but allow yourself a bit of time to recharge when you’re feeling slumpy. I hope y’all had a great Wednesday! You are on the downward slope now, so keep your chins up!

What are your tips for getting through the “hump slump?” Let me know in the comments!

๐Ÿ’•Shelby๐ŸŽ€

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On Honesty

Hey, y’all!! So I have been happily married for almost 3 wonderful years (anniversary on the 16th)! It has been amazing, and one of the best things about married life is that I have nothing to do with today’s dating game. I was the master of terrible dates for a long time before finding the love of my life! I had forgotten how awful all of that was until I recently heard and saw things from my single friends. Today’s events in particular have given me inspiration to talk about the importance of honesty while navigating the casual dating world.

To keep it respectful, I will not divulge the situation. I will just tell y’all what I think. What I am seeing lately is people’s unwillingness to be open and honest with what they want in a relationship, or rather a situationship. I get that people want to date around and not put labels on things, but they need to communicate that to potential partners! So many people are telling their dates that they only want to talk to them and that they see a future, but they actually want to bippity boppity boo with a variety of people. All this does is create false hope followed by heartbreak. I have been consoling someone tonight because of a guy’s choice to tell her one thing and then do another right before her eyes. I just don’t get it. Why can’t people just tell the truth?

No matter what you want from dating, there will be someone out there who shares your desires and needs, but finding those people requires honest communication. Whether you want to talk to multiple people at once, date to marry, court like the Duggars, or do any other unconventional stuff that has become cool to do, just tell the person/people you are dating! If they are down with that, they will let you know. If they aren’t, then y’all can move on and save yourself a lot of pointless drama. I understand that those conversations are awkward, but they are necessary.

I told you before that I’m in a happy marriage. You know how I got there? Ben straight up told me he wanted to date exclusively, we started going to church together, and then he let me know he wanted to move toward marriage! It was awesome, because we were transparent the whole time! The payoff has been unbelievable. We are obviously very traditional, and I’m not naive enough to think that everyone’s story should look like ours. I’m just pointing out the positive communication!

Okay, that was a long rant! Bottom line: Just be honest, both in dating and in other aspects of life. You keep your integrity and your life becomes so much easier!

Thanks for reading! Have a great night!

๐Ÿ’•Shelby๐ŸŽ€

Get To Know You Tag

Hello there!! I was thinking about what to write all day, and then I got tagged for “get to know you!” Easy peasy lemon squeezy! Here is some stuff about me. To all my lovely followers: YOU HAVE BEEN TAGGED!! I want to see yours! ๐Ÿ™‚

  1. ย Are you named after anyone?
    Yep! First name: Shelby from Steel Magnolias! Middle name: Elizabeth, a family name. ๐Ÿ™‚
  2. When was the last time you cried?
    Last week.
  3. Do you have kids?
    Does this cutie count? 15232073_10211730454515991_1775713306975978767_nThen yes! One 4 year old son named Bounce!
  4. If you were another person, would you be a friend of yourself?
    Absolutely!
  5. Do you use sarcasm a lot?
    Eh? Sometimes, but it’s not a large part of my personality.
  6. Whatโ€™s the first thing you notice about people?
    Their smiles!
  7. What is your eye color?
    Blue/gray.
  8. Scary movie or happy endings?
    HAPPY ENDINGS!! Fairy tales and rom coms are my jam!
  9. Favorite smells?
    Pumpkin spice (laugh all you want), fresh cookies, Calvin Klein Eternity Aqua, and apple pie! Wow, lots of desserts…
  10. Whatโ€™s the furthest youโ€™ve ever been from home?
    Europe!
  11. Do you have any special talents?
    YES. I can touch my tongue to my nose AND do the belly wave. Not trying to brag, but I can even do both at the same time! #madskillz
  12. Where were you born?
    Sarasota, Florida!
  13. What are your hobbies?
    Dancing, eating, shopping, reading, blogging (duh), fashion, and anything dealing with coffee.
  14. Do you have any pets?
    See my kids answer! ๐Ÿ˜‰
  15. Do you have any siblings?
    Yep! 3 brothers and a sister, plus the in-laws! Only one is my actual sibling by birth. The rest were cousins who became siblings when we were adopted by our aunt and uncle!
  16. What do you want to be when you grow up?
    Oh gosh, I am already grown up! After my PhD, I want to stay in education, but either go the administration track or the professor and eventually dean track. I know God will lead me in the right direction when I finish that doctorate! #drrose
  17. How tall are you?
    Not tall enough to reach my top cabinets! 5’3!
  18. How many countries have you visited?
    4: Mexico, Belgium, Germany, and Luxembourg
  19. What was your favorite/worst subject in High School?
    My favorite was English, and my worst was science.
  20. What is your Favorite drink? Animal? Perfume?
    My favorite drink is definitely a Starbucks latte! I like to vary the flavors! My favorite animal is a sweet, cuddly dog! My favorite perfume is Calvin Klein Eternity Aqua, with Polo’s #1 (the blue one) coming in a close second!
  21. What would you (or have you) name your children?
    My first son will be Killian James Rose, possibly spelled Cillian, the traditional Irish way. And we may do Benjamin as the middle name instead, because it’s tradition on his side to give the first born son the father’s first name as their middle name. But we like James too! We’re still debating those things! My first daughter will be Annabelle Elizabeth Rose. All the women on my mom’s side have Elizabeth as the middle name! Then my second son will be William Benjamin Rose or William James Rose. Whichever one we don’t do for Killian! That’s all we have so far!
  22. What Sports do you play/Have you played?
    I ran track in high school, but besides that, my sport has always been dance! I started dancing at age 4, and now I run the dance team at our middle school!
  23. Who are some of your favorite YouTubers?
    I am not really a YouTube person as of right now, but there are bloggers who vlog that I follow. Carly the Prepster, formerly The College Prepster, is my absolute favorite! She has stayed true to herself and her brand for years, and we love a lot of the same things! Our hometowns are also like 45 minutes apart! Another one I like is TT Bret, a cosplayer with tons of Harry Potter stuff! #nerdalert
  24. Favorite memory from childhood?
    Definitely all of the cool opportunities that dance provided me. One takes the cake, though. When I was 10, our ballet company put on a ballet dealing with Iran. They invited the Shahbanou of Iran to come and watch it. I knew nothing about Iran, but 10 year old me felt entitled to meet royalty, because I was, like, totally going to be a royal one day. Duh. So meeting her was a really cool part of my childhood! She was super sweet!
  25. How would you describe your fashion sense?
    It’s preppy for sure, especially during spring and summer when I can wear my array of polos and Lilly dresses! I also have a super vintage flair, though! I like to add some ’50s sparkle to my outfits! It’s fabulous, yet modest!
  26. What phone do you have? (iOS v Android?)
    iPhone 7!
  27. Tell us one of your bad habits!
    I accidentally adopt other people’s speech patterns when I talk to them, and I have to be careful that it doesn’t seem like I’m making fun of anyone! It’s funny, because if I live in a new place long enough, their accent starts to come out! When I lived in Washington state for 3 years, I first got teased for sounding too southern, but when I got to Oklahoma, they straight up thought I was a northerner because I had started saying “bayg” instead of bag! I got rid of it pretty quick after being back where I belong, in the good ol’ south! ๐Ÿ˜‰

Thanks for reading and getting to know me better! Don’t forget to do yours!! Y’all have a great Friday night!

๐Ÿ’•Shelby๐ŸŽ€

When to Stop


Picture from the family’s country home!

Y’all. I LOVE to work. I have 3 jobs right now, and nothing gives me more joy and fulfillment than crushing it at work! Some have even called me a workaholic. This past week, however, has made me realize that breaks are okay sometimes.
On Sunday night, my dad lost his battle with colon cancer. I was heartbroken, but the wake (we don’t do funerals in my family) is not until December. What did I do? I kept my nail appointment that day to maintain my professional image and rolled into work on Monday for 14 hours straight. People told me to take some time, but as sad as I was, I felt even more stress when I thought about missing work. It was conference week!! 

In comes Tuesday, and I did the same thing, except that I only had an 11 hour day! That was a “break” for me. The harder I worked, the less I had to think about my dad. Unfortunately, I must have still been distracted in the back of my mind, because I totaled my car while driving us to a dinner date after work. Now we are down to one car for a couple weeks and having to deal with insurance stuff on top of the family stress. Surely I would take a day off then!

Nope. Back to work on Wednesday morning and receiving many phone calls from family members telling me to rest and take some time to process things. Honestly, it just made me hoppin’ mad! Working is how I want to get through things! Taking a break shows weakness! I made it through my lunch duty, where my boss straight up told me to take care of myself and let me know that it would not tarnish my reputation. Losing my positive professional reputation is one of my biggest fears, and hearing from my wonderful boss that it wouldn’t happen helped me make the right decision. I finally (reluctantly) decided to take everyone’s advice. I got my stuff together for the sub, went to teach my night class, and packed up my things.

I am writing this today from the country house in Beggs. I spent the whole day chilling with my mother-in-law, reading old cookbooks, and taking time to relax and reflect on my loss. I still feel restless, but I am relaxing for the next couple days so that I can return on Monday as my best self. No matter how much of a boss babe you are, sometimes breaks make you stronger and more effective. Listen to yourself when you begin to run on empty, and fill your cup so you can bless others, or at least not total your car! ๐Ÿ˜‰

Thanks for reading a more serious piece than what I usually post! I almost wanted to wait and just blog again about something happy, but life, even my pretty blessed one, is not always that way. These times remind us to appreciate the great times that much more. Wonderful times are ahead, but I need to get through this week first.

๐Ÿ’•Shelby๐ŸŽ€